Connect Deeper
Ask these questions to bond with your loved ones.
New to Caregiving
What's the most important thing I can help you with today?
New to Caregiving
What will make you feel I am meeting your needs?
New to Caregiving
Can priorities be set for the tasks at hand?
New to Caregiving
What is one thing you want to manage on your own, without anyone else's involvement?
New to Caregiving
What is one thing you need most right now that would make you feel more comfortable and heard?
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Conflicts
What are some ways I can communicate with you that would help avoid misunderstandings?
Conflicts
What does being on time mean to you?
Conflicts
Do you have the financial resources you need for your desired lifestyle and legacy?
Conflicts
How can we balance repeatedly enjoying your favorite stories and discussing our expectations openly?
Conflicts
How can we make the most of our time together to ensure it's quality time?
Conflicts
How can we encourage family members to either contribute positively or trust our care decisions?
Conflicts
Can we find a way to agree on food choices that are healthy and enjoyable for you?
Conflicts
Would you be open to comparing our points of view to find common ground?
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Housing
What other living options would you consider for better safety and care?
Housing
Is there someone nearby you can call on in an emergency?
Housing
What traits would you look for in someone with whom you would consider sharing a home or aide to help manage costs?
Housing
What professional and personal support do you have available in case of a medical emergency?
Housing
Is living with a family member a good option for you? With whom would you feel most comfortable?
Housing
What must-have features would you want in a nursing home if you ever need one?
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Safety
What safety concerns, if any, keep you up at night?
Safety
Are you comfortable with your understanding of your finances and projected expenses for the future?
Safety
If change is needed, what would it take for you to consider a different approach or viewpoint?
Safety
Have you noticed needing to turn up the volume higher than before on your TV or feeling you are missing parts of what others are saying
Safety
Can we review your medication management process to ensure medications are effective for you?
Safety
What are some of the things that you have almost tripped on in the past few months?
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Dependence
What would make you feel less dependent and more safe at the same time?
Dependence
What criteria would you use to make the decision to stop driving and use other forms of transportation?
Dependence
Could you describe what being able to move independently means to you?
Dependence
How much daily alone time would help you feel at peace?
Dependence
What are the challenges in managing incontinence comfortably and with dignity?
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Legal
Who would you like to make medical decisions in the event you are unable?
Legal
Shall we document your medical treatment wishes in an Advance Directive, in case you can't communicate them?
Legal
If you are declining Life Sustaining treatment? We will need a Physician's Order (POLST).
Legal
Do you want Physician-Assisted Suicide, where you could choose when to pass with medical support?
Legal
Who do you feel comfortable handling your financial matters if you're unable to do so?
Legal
Is there anything specific you want to ensure is handled in a particular way in your will?
Legal
What are your care preferences if you're unable to communicate in a serious situation?
Legal
Who would you trust to manage your Social Security benefits if you couldn't?
Legal
Who would you authorize to access your medical records for health decisions on your behalf?
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Transition
What would you love to do or have that would bring you joy?
Transition
How do you feel about comfort-focused care if treatments aren't helping and you're in pain?
Transition
Would you be open to having someone else help us for a bit, just to give us a little break?
Transition
How often would you like someone to check in and see if you need anything?
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End of Life
What does finding closure mean to you? Is there anyone you feel you need to reconcile with?
End of Life
Is there someone you'd like to acknowledge or thank?
End of Life
How would you like your last moments to be?
End of Life
Would you like to plan your funeral with a doula who can guide us through the process?
End of Life
Is there anything you'd still like to accomplish to ensure your legacy is as you envision it?
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End of Caregiving
How would you like for me to remember you?
End of Caregiving
Which memory of us together should I recall to make me smile?
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